Yeah, front windscreen (when both sides are on) uses something silly like 60A of current, so would kill a battery in minutes.
You could tap in to the signal +ve from the alternator multiplug, but to be honest there's no need for it, as once the car is running the starter motor relay is inactive (relay/switch side goes from -ve to +ve) therefore no risk of 're-engaging' the starter via a start button. I've wired in a few of these and had similar concerns to you, until I figured out how it all worked with a multimeter etc.
Edited by st07 (25/05/11 09:32 PM)